The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, two women who, in their own way, love one man, is often not easy. The mother-in-law often thinks that her son has not been given the conditions that he deserves, that the daughter-in-law does a lot (or everything!)
Wanting to please her husband's mother, many women try to predict her comments. But they do not always know how to do it better. For example, how to prepare for an important visit? Do you need to do general cleaning, or simply lay things in place and put things in order.
Let's try to sort this out together.
Point of view of daughter-in-law
Daughter in this situation is more difficult. Before the next visit of the "high" guest women choose one of two possible solutions.
Let everything be as usual
Is the lack of dust and stains - this is important? The usual procedure is enough, and there is no need to do a general cleaning on an emergency basis. Still, her husband's mother - not Rospotrebnadzor!- This is our home, what, how and when to do - our business with my husband. The mother-in-law should be pleased that we are fine, instead of searching for dust in the corners.
- She still can not please! Though the house will shine! So why waste time and energy on this.
Is the lack of dust and stains - this is important? The usual procedure is enough, and there is no need to do a general cleaning on an emergency basis. Still, her husband's mother - not Rospotrebnadzor!TIP! Start preparing for your visit in advance. If this is not possible, pay special attention to the bathroom and kitchen. And the fight against dust in other rooms entrust her husband with a vacuum cleaner.
Get out anyway have to!
I want everything in the house to shine. It will be nice when the mother-in-law does not have the opportunity to make a remark.- A “special” visit is a reason to finally do something that the hands do not reach.. For example, wash the chandelier, which has become dim, disassembled in cabinets and on the mezzanine.
- Relationship with the mother in law do not want to spoil, and she likes to have "perfect" in the house.
I want everything in the house to shine. It will be nice when the mother-in-law does not have the opportunity to make a remark.TIP! In preparing for a meeting with the husband's mother, do not think only about the general cleaning. If you have perfect cleanliness in your house, but your relatives will quarrel with each other for any reason, she will not like it either.
Point of view mother-in-law
And what do wise women think?
- The house must be in order! And the woman is responsible for this!
- By the arrival of guests decided to prepare! This rule should not be changed, otherwise a complete chaos awaits the family!
- But if the daughter-in-law does not have time, better leave it as it is, than be annoyed about the visit mother-in-law.
- Pleasant communication with the family of the son is much more important.than polished pans.
TIP! Do not resent the carelessness of mother-in-law or lecture her! Imagine that these same words in your address utters your mother in law. And if she never says that, maybe you should learn from her the wisdom of communicating with your daughter-in-law?
Draw conclusions
As you can see, women, regardless of their status (daughter-in-law, mother-in-law), advocate order in the house.
But their idea of purity may not be the same.
Do not arrange a cult of order! Better think about where you invite your mother-in-law, which concerts or exhibitions you visit with her or the whole family.
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